How To Get Your Kids To Speak Your Language

Note: This experience had to do with preservinga previous group of Latin immigrants to the
Spanish for our kids but the principles are valid forUnited States, the Italians.
anyone trying to help their kids speak and"Some social critics were aware of the
preserve any language and culture.consequences of sudden assimilation. Mary
COUNTRY OF MANY PEOPLESMcDowell, a social worker, wrote en 1904:
This country,,, (The authors raised their kids in the'The contempt for the experiences and languages
United States but they believe that theirof their parents which foreign children sometimes
experience can be useful for people in otherexhibit... is doubtless due in part to the
non-spanish-speaking countries.) This country isoverestimation which the school places upon
made up of people from all over the world. We orspeaking English. This cutting into his family loyalty
our parents came from Latin countries. We nowtakes away one of the most conspicuous and
live here. We function in two different worlds, thevaluable traits of the Italian child.' She attributed
American world and the world of our parents. Allthe lawlessness of some of the immigrant children
of us live in these two different worlds into their disrespect for their parents and therefore
different ways. Some of us were born in thefor all authority."
countries our parents came from; others of us(La Storia: Five Centuries of the Italian American
were born here. This makes a difference in howExperience, Mangione and Morreale, p. 222)
and how much we live in our two worlds.Finally, the ability to speak another language can
COUNTRY OF MANY LANGUAGESbe a great boost to a child's self esteem. If the
The one thing that is most important in ourchild's parents make it clear that they are proud
parents' world is their language which is also oursof their language and of their people, the child will
in different ways. The Spanish language of ourfeel closer to his parents and to their heritage,
parents is an issue to all of us every day. Wecustoms, and most importantly to their values.
may be proud to speak it well. We may beHOW TO ENCOURAGE YOUR CHILDREN TO
ashamed at not speaking it well. Some of us maySPEAK SPANISH
have gone through periods of trying not to speakStart early. Try to speak only Spanish to the child.
it because we wanted to speak English better.If only one parent speaks Spanish well, that
We may only speak it when we come acrossperson should always speak Spanish with the child.
someone who needs help in understanding English.Do not be afraid of "confusing" the child. Children
We may only remember some sayings of ourcan identify with different speakers of different
grandparents or children's songs taught to us bylanguages as they grow up.
our parents.1. Read simple stories and fairy tales to the child in
You may want to review (or study it for the firstSpanish. if you can't find children's literature in
time) your Spanish. We could only find oneSpanish, then make your own translations as you
reference for you. It is expensive and is ago along. It is not necessary that the translation
textbook, not too appealing but complete. Take abe perfect. Make up your own stories. It is
look at Nuevos Mundos, Spanish for Nativeimportant for your child to have the memories of
Speakers 2nd Edition, Workbook : Curso dehearing nursery rhymes in Spanish.
espanol para estudiantes bilingues"2. Leave your radio tuned de Spanish language
F. Bruce Robinson, assistant director in the Nationalstations. Linguists place a great deal of importance
Endowment for the Humanities' division ofon "passive listening" as part of learning a
education programs asks "How does Americalanguage, especially for young children.
preserve this important resource of people who3. In most areas there is a Spanish language TV
are proficient in other languages? Instead of tryingstation. Put on the Saturday morning cartoons in
to depress the knowledge these students comeSpanish.
to school with, we ought to be trying to build on4. Teach simple nursery rhymes and simple songs
it." (Chronicle of Higher Education, Feb. 2, 1994,to your child. If you don't remember them or if
page A15)you were not taught any from your parents'
OUR CHILDREN AND OUR LANGUAGEtraditions, look for them in garage sales, college
We all want our children to speak the language ofbookstores, or your local library. Do you
their heritage. We discount the opinions of thoseremember el patito or pinpón? Look for
who say that it is better to forget Spanish and tosongs in Spanish.
concentrate on speaking English well. These people5. Rent videos in Spanish. They are beginning to
are just wrong. It does not hurt your English tobe available - and not only in cities with a big
speak another language; it helps. Spanish isSpanish-speaking population!
particularly useful to children in their learning English6. Use proverbs and dichos in Spanish. Some
vocabulary. Just today I taught my daughter theexpressions that you would say in English are just
difference between vowels and consonants.as legitimate proverbs in Spanish. Get your child
Knowing Spanish really helped with the idea of theused to hearing them in Spanish. You can do this
consonants. I told her that the consonants haveeven if you don't speak Spanish well. For example,
no voice; they can only be pronounced with thesay mejor tarde que nunca instead of "better late
vowels. The con-sonants suenan con the vowels.than never". Little by little, poco a poco, you'll feel
But although most of us agree that it is a goodat home with more uniquely Latin expressions.
thing for our kids to speak Spanish, most kids inThey have something of the culture wrapped up
the US whose parents were born in Latinin them. They are stubbornly different from Anglo
American countries do not speak Spanish well.Saxon proverbs.
Even if both parents speak Spanish at home,7. Get used to saying menos mal in place of "just
quite often the kids answer their parents inas well". The English expression is "better than
English. Look around at your Latin friends andnothing"; in many Southamerican countries, the
relatives and you will see that most give up onequivalent expression is peor es nada. Find
teaching their kids to speak Spanish. Chicano andproverbs.
Puerto Rican families seem to have a little better8. Don't correct their Spanish when they speak.
luck than Latinos from other countries withDon't interrupt the flow of their conversation.
keeping Spanish alive in their barrios but even theirDon't make their speaking Spanish to be another
younger generation is losing fluency in Spanish.homework assignment. It should be something
However, parents who want their children tospecial, even something "secret" in your family.
speak Spanish can go against the current and setKids like the mystery and intrigue of having
the stage for their children to grow up speakingsomething special of their own. Their speaking
Spanish. It is not easy. Most families fail in theirSpanish should be a joyful, non-threatening
resolve but it can be done. This report will giveexperience. If they make mistakes in their
some hints on how to improve your chances.grammar, correct their errors by using the same
REASONS FOR OUR CHILDREN TO SPEAKexpression correctly a few minutes after. Don't
SPANISHcome right back at them with the correct form
There are many reasons why it is good for theor they will begin to feel conscious of their
kids to speak your language. One obvious reasonexpression and choke off their freedom of
is the advantage that it might be for them in theexpression.
job market. As long as we live in a world with9. Get a good syllabary to teach them the value
shrunken distances and growing international trade,of the letters and how to read in Spanish. If your
someone has to be able to talk with people fromchild's first language is Spanish teach them to read
other countries.Spanish before they learn English. You will be doing
Professor Francisco X. Alarcón of thethem a big favor. They will learn to sound out the
University of California at Davis says that "nowregular spelling of Spanish which will be a good
that we are moving toward a global economy, it'sbase on which to learn how to read in English. You
O.K. to be bilingual in the U.S." (Chronicle of Higherwill get the same results as those who spend
Education, Feb.2, 1994, page A15)money on expensive Phonics programs.
Another good reason for you to work at your10. The best way to get your children to grow in
children's learning to speak Spanish is because itSpanish is to send them to spend some time with
will make you proud to hear the compliments ofrelatives or friends where they will only speak and
your friends and countrymen because yourhear Spanish. This works best at around 7 years
children are able to speak your language. Youold when children play easily with one another and
grow in prestige as a person who values yourwhen Spanish will just come naturally even to the
roots.child who has very little exposure to the language.
Your children will also be able to speak with theirAnother good age for a child to be exposed to a
relatives thanks to improved phone service whichSpanish speaking environment is at around 12
is entering the most remote villages of ouryears old. At this age, the child has greater mental
countries. Direct dialing from the United States isdevelopment and can observe customs and
economical enough to be able call a few times asituations in which certain expressions are used.
year. The thrill of being able to talk to their uncles,At twelve years old most kids are still
aunts, and cousins will get the kids interested inpre-adolescents and are not hampered by the
keeping up their language.embarrassment, self consciousness, and "feeling
They will be speaking to their relatives not onlydifferent" which hold back teenagers from learning
by phone but will be able to visit them. Thea language or customs different from their own.
experience of knowing another culture will putUse any of the above methods but start! Your
them ahead of their classmates who have no tiesefforts will communciate to your children the
to their roots.importance that you give to Spanish even if these
Another reason to encourage our children toefforts are not always completely successful.
speak Spanish can be gotten from the history of©1994 F.