Self Confidence - A Key to Personal and Business Success!

Self Confidence is a key part of success inyourself discounting your work, your abilities or
business. It is the difference between having faithany other aspect of yourself, tell yourself "Stop."
in yourself and feeling scared out of your wits. ItThis word is so ingrained into our psyche that it
is about having trust in what you know and yourwill momentarily freeze thought. Then replace the
abilities to handle the unexpected events that lifethought with something that is positive and
puts in your path. It is also a belief that you areopposite of the interrupted thought.
the one in control of your life and your goals. It isThe fifth ingredient to building confidence is to
that unexplainable and untouchable attribute thatmake an achievement list. Make yourself a list of
allows you get in touch with that inner self thateverything you have accomplished no matter how
allows you to express yourself fully.small. We do not give ourselves enough credit for
The good news is that it is a trait that isall the things we do right. We could in any given
strengthened so do not give up if you do not feelday, do ten things right and still focus on the one
you have it at this time. In addition, selfthing we have done wrong. Do not let yourself
confidence varies depending on whether you areget caught in this trap. It is a self-confidence killer.
doing something for the first time or it isWhen you find yourself fixating on an error,
something you know well. It can vary due toreview you accomplishments. Then fix the error
environment as well. For example, some peopleand move one. Life is too short to spend it
are very confident in one on one presentationbeating yourself up for the thing you didn't do
while others are confident in front of large groupsright. Pick yourself up... and get going!
of people. It will not increase overnight but youLastly, if you find a subject you need to know
can work to build it up to the level of yourbut have no confidence in then take a class, read
aspiration.a book or just find a forum and listen to those
The first step in building self confidence is givingchatting about it. Knowledge is power! There is no
you permission to not give up no matter whatdoubt that just knowing what others are speaking
the outcome. The key is, to do your best in anyof will increase your confidence and social
given situation regardless of your knowledge orpresence. When you do not feel left out, you
the end result. When this happens, then each smallagain, increase your confidence levels. In addition,
step of progress increases confidence.when you pursue knowledge on a subject to
The second key ingredient is to set achievablewhich you have a need or a passion, you gain the
goals. If you are doing something for the firstexperience of uniqueness which will also increase
time, give yourself goals to learn each small step.worth.
Do not expect perfection in your first attempt.Making the decision to work on building self
Progress and not perfection is the attitude thatconfidence could actually affect the success you
builds confidence. If you must be perfect in yourfind and achieve in life. It is an important decision.
own mind, then even the smallest error becomesIt is important to be you. Whenever we are put
disastrous to confidence.in positions to pretend to be what we are not,
The smallest things can improve confidence. Addwe risk our confidence levels. While there is some
a smile when you make a phone call and it willtruth to the 'fake it till you make it' mentality, Life
show in your voice, increasing a positive response.is a much happier journey when you can be who
Straightening posture when meeting someone oryou are and when you can be proud of the skills
giving a warm and confident handshake even ifyou have. It is about recognizing your strengths
you are trembling inside returns a positiveand being able to truly understand that we all
response. When another person responds in ahave areas of weakness.
positive manner, you comfort level increases.If you are an employer or a team leader,
The third ingredient to building up your confidenceremember to recognize the smallest gains from
is based on your physical well being. When we eatthose you supervise. A first sale, a new
right, sleep well and get exercise we then feeltechnique, a first presentation, these critical
better. That sense of physical well being comesmoments can make or break those you work
out in our work, our voices and even ourwith. Recognize the strengths of an individual
presentations and productivity. These are allbefore you point out areas they may want to
factors to building up a sense of worth. Makingfocus on next. When your team feels confidence,
eye contact, a simple physical event, will actuallythen everyone wins. That is the cool thing about
convey confidence. So no matter how you feelself-confidence. The more it is felt the more there
inside, get those eyes up to those who you areis... it just keeps growing till you have a powerful
speaking too!team that is unstoppable. As a leader, you have
The fourth ingredient is to watch your own selfnothing to lose in these little recognizable
talk. Many individuals erode their own selfmoments and everything to gain. Success and
confidence by the negative self talk and theSelf-Confidence are intricately twisted about one
downplaying of recognition or compliments.another, never lose sight of it.
Monitor how you talk to yourself. If you find